Working with youth is a challenging yet rewarding calling.
By Ceeja Malmkar, Pastor
Surrey Hills, Oklahoma, U.S.
When asked what my best practices for working with youth are — the most important thing is actually practicing what we preach and being intentional on engaging these age groups as churches. If we aren’t keeping young people — both children and teens — in mind when planning our ministries, trainings, and events, then we’re missing the mark. After all, Jesus made time for children, welcoming them with open arms. If we want to be like him, we must do the same.
I’ll never forget when my oldest was a baby, and it took everything we had just to walk through those church doors. We were exhausted, uncertain, and honestly, a little overwhelmed. But right there at the entrance was the smiling face of Miss Juli. Her warmth and the church’s commitment to having a children’s ministry made all the difference. If she hadn’t been there or if the church wasn’t prepared for families like ours, I don’t think we would’ve returned. That’s why being intentional about welcoming young people and their families is crucial.
Start with Fun
One of the best ways to break down walls and build trust with young people is to have fun. It might seem simple, but laughter and shared experiences create common ground. Whether it’s a silly game, a fun question, or a lighthearted activity, these moments help young people feel safe and connected — not just to the leaders but to each other. When they feel like they belong, they’re more likely to open their hearts.
Meet Them Where They Are
Young people today are navigating a world vastly different from the one most adults grew up in. Social media, constant connectivity, and an ever-changing cultural landscape shape their experiences. If we want to reach them, we need to be listening more than we speak, showing genuine interest in their lives, and understanding the challenges they face. When we meet them where they are, without judgment or agenda, they begin to trust us. And trust is the foundation of influence.
Engagement is Key
Let’s face it: youth attention spans aren’t what they used to be. Competing with endless digital content and a steady stream of notifications requires creativity and intentionality. To capture and keep their attention, we must teach in ways that are dynamic and interactive. This means using stories, visuals, and activities that resonate. It also means inviting their participation rather than simply lecturing. When they’re actively engaged, they’re not just learning — they’re experiencing. And experiences stick.
Embrace the Power of Presence
Young people are incredibly perceptive. They can tell when an adult is merely fulfilling an obligation versus genuinely wanting to be with them. It’s not just about showing up; it’s about being present. Putting down the phone, making eye contact, and truly listening communicates value. In a world that often overlooks them, being fully present is a powerful way to show the love of Jesus.
Place Relationship First, Message Second
Jesus knew the power of relationship. He met people where they were, engaged them in meaningful conversation, and loved them authentically. If we want to point young people to Jesus, we must do the same. When they know they’re loved and valued, their hearts become open to the gospel. It’s through relationship that truth is best received.
Become MinistrySafe Approved
If we’re truly committed to welcoming young people and their families, we must also be prepared to protect them. That’s why it’s crucial to become MinistrySafe approved. MinistrySafe provides a complete Child Safety System designed to reduce the risk of child sexual abuse, including background checks and training. This ensures that our volunteers and staff are trained to maintain a safe and secure environment. It also gives parents peace of mind, knowing their children are in good hands. When God brings families and children to our churches and camps, we need to be ready — not just with smiles and fun activities but with the proper safeguards in place. [See the Church Administration Manual for complete guidelines for screening potential children and youth volunteers.]
Point Them to Jesus
Ultimately, our goal is to point young people to Jesus. But this isn’t about pushing religion or preaching at them. It’s about walking alongside them and modeling the love and grace of Christ. It’s about having honest conversations, answering tough questions, and letting them wrestle with their faith. When they see Jesus in us — in our patience, kindness, and authenticity — they’ll want to know him too.
Working with youth is one of the most challenging yet rewarding callings. It requires patience, creativity, and above all, love. But when we prioritize relationship, engage them where they are, and point them to Jesus through our actions and words, we create a space where transformation can happen.
Because in the end, it’s not about programs or performances. It’s about being with them, loving them where they are, and walking with them toward who they’re meant to become — followers of Jesus.
